5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”

Genesis 9:6 (NIV)

6 “Whoever sheds the blood of man, by man shall his blood be shed; for in the image of God has God made man.
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"A child who dies before baptism, or a stillborn or miscarried child may be given Catholic Funeral Rites if the parents intended to have the child baptized. The remains of fetuses or stillborns should always receive reverent Christian burial if this is at all possible. These remains may be placed either in specific individual graves or in a common burial area. stillborns should always receive reverent Christian burial if this is at all possible. These remains may be placed either in specific individual graves or in a common burial area.

"The Order for Christian Funerals provides a complete funeral liturgy for children who have died (OCF #234-342). The various texts for a baptized child or a child who died before baptism make these rites fully adaptable to various situations, and offer consolation for those suffering the extraordinary grief which comes with the death of a child."
http://www.diocese-sdiego.org/Handbook/Handbook_PDFs/Liturgy8.pdf

"The local ordinary can permit children whom the parents intended to baptize but who died before baptism to be given ecclesiastical funerals."
http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P4C.HTM
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lately i feel Christianity really is dependent of the individual
too many priests with pro-war attitudes and ways of thinking that are heartless and biased and inhumane
and too many who claim to be Christian agree with them

i would suggest finding a priest who will do it
and have a private mass elsewhere
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